I’m not saying this to belittle your situation, I have honest sympathy for you (and your sibling), but at some point in an adult’s life, no matter how you were raised or what fucked up things your parents did, it has to stop being a excuse for the present day situation. Keep in mind, I’m not saying that’s what you’re saying here. I’m explaining further my prior post, not dismissing your response.
Hypothetically if an abusive parent cut off the legs of their child, the resulting adult will always be legless, but that can’t be the reason the (now adult) still uses as to why they don’t move forward with whatever life they have left.
at some point in an adult’s life, no matter how you were raised or what fucked up things your parents did, it has to stop being a excuse
I see where you are coming from, but when going through shit yourself that you can’t explain to others, the only thing I can say is “that’s easy to to say, not to feel”
but when going through shit yourself that you can’t explain to others, the only thing I can say is “that’s easy to to say, not to feel”
Thats the point to reach for professional help, as in therapy. We’re not born equipped to deal with all the shit life can throw as us. There’s no shame in that.
The problem is not reaching out for help as an adult when you need it.
Thats really good! I’m proud of you for taking action for your own health. You’re proving my point though. You didn’t let whatever your parents did to you hold you back from taking steps on your own. You aren’t using how your parents raised you as an excuse to do nothing.
I want to say I’m glad you didn’t go through with that negative thing you mentioned. The world is better with you in it. I know I’m no one to you, but you’ve made my life better by talking with me here and sharing a human moment. I want you to be here for all the other people you touch positively in the years ahead. Please be here for that.
I’m not saying this to belittle your situation, I have honest sympathy for you (and your sibling), but at some point in an adult’s life, no matter how you were raised or what fucked up things your parents did, it has to stop being a excuse for the present day situation. Keep in mind, I’m not saying that’s what you’re saying here. I’m explaining further my prior post, not dismissing your response.
Hypothetically if an abusive parent cut off the legs of their child, the resulting adult will always be legless, but that can’t be the reason the (now adult) still uses as to why they don’t move forward with whatever life they have left.
I see where you are coming from, but when going through shit yourself that you can’t explain to others, the only thing I can say is “that’s easy to to say, not to feel”
Thats the point to reach for professional help, as in therapy. We’re not born equipped to deal with all the shit life can throw as us. There’s no shame in that.
The problem is not reaching out for help as an adult when you need it.
Therapy doesn’t magically fix things.
I’m in therapy, have been for years. Had a virtual appointment with mine this morning.
I went to the psych ward last month bc I was actually about to kms, switched antidepressants and I’m on 3x the average doce and a bonus as needed one.
Still doesn’t help enough to make me feel close to normal.
Thats really good! I’m proud of you for taking action for your own health. You’re proving my point though. You didn’t let whatever your parents did to you hold you back from taking steps on your own. You aren’t using how your parents raised you as an excuse to do nothing.
I want to say I’m glad you didn’t go through with that negative thing you mentioned. The world is better with you in it. I know I’m no one to you, but you’ve made my life better by talking with me here and sharing a human moment. I want you to be here for all the other people you touch positively in the years ahead. Please be here for that.