I like to have a drink but hard NO to doing it before anything important. I strongly prefer to feel clear headed for those moments.

I’ve not been to many, but have had people repeatedly tell me our wedding was the best they’d ever been to, so I guess ours was the best by some measure. I have an enormous family, husband and I got together as adults so both had kids too, some grown, we ended up with 50 people only inviting immediate family (brothers, sisters, their partners and kids, our parents, our kids) the weather cooperated, we had open bar and only one person got too drunk, DJ not great but not bad, so much dancing, it was nothing super fancy nor bare bones, I would say nice enough so everyone could feel comfortable and not more.

If anyone is wondering, the things I think made it good - open bar, kids running around, good music, enough structure but not too much (a cocktail hour then ceremony then reception with music & a first dance, then food, then more partying, food left out for people to get more if they want, no assigned seating, tables pushed to edges so big dance floor and again I think open bar is a non negotiable, make sure there are plenty of non alcoholic options at the bar too)

It does feel like going out in underwear, to a place where everyone is in underwear, and the people wearing full clothing look out of place. I don’t even have a perfect body but grew up near the beach, saw every possible body type in swimwear. So I am comfortable enough looking near naked in public, since everyone is. It’s nice.

My kids call me Mom, step kids call me by my first name.

Oh and sometimes mama, in Spanish.

I guess I’d die. It’s never either of those where I live. And crops would fail either way.

In terms of personal comfort:

If the only triple digit temp was only ever exactly 100, then I guess triple digits.

If it can be Celsius, 9 is so cold but not kill you cold, I would be sad but not dead.

You know what’s funny? I have experienced the inverse of this. I run pretty cool so always take warm or hot showers, but one time there was a cold snap and my water heater broke. We had well water so it was very cold, and down here we do not really have heaters designed to handle actual cold so the house was freezing too. So I had what was probably the most uncomfortable shower of my entire life, shivering and teeth chattering so fucking cold, thought I would die, but when I got out? The air felt almost warm, it was so pleasant not just because it was over, but because it somehow blunted the feeling of cold. I don’t understand how chilling my core somehow warmed me (it usually works the other way) but it sure did.

At night here I do shower hot, I think the theory is that then when you lay down, your body temperature is dropping and that makes it easier to fall asleep.

You know, when I got my current job, the people in my department said"we tried to find your Facebook but couldn’t" and I said 'yeah that’s because I don’t have one."

13 years later, still don’t.

Though honestly even our work teams chat would probably be too spicy for these motherfuckers. They just want a pretext to keep out anybody. Like some law impossible to follow, that they can selectively enforce.

Is there no Fucking Interesting community on Lemmy?

Of songs that other people like?

I hate Dust in the Wind, and House of the Rising Sun, and I never need to hear Stairway to Heaven again, I have used up my quota.

If I had them, I’d process the strawberries by generously cutting the tops off (don’t throw them away!) then putting them on a parchment lined sheet pan to freeze, then once frozen, into freezer safe bags. With the tops, make kvass. Put them in a pitcher with a lot of sugar and some spices, fill the pitcher with boiled and cooled water. Cover loosely with a towel and stir twice a day until fizzy. I have some in my fridge right now and it’s delicious!

OP, do you have an air conditioned library or a cold springs near you? When I was living without AC I found that getting really cold at some point in the day chilled me off for quite a few hours, made the rest of the day feel better. I had a friend who would get in a cool shower then not dry off just lay in the wind from a fan.

Huh? I sit outside, with a fan on, in up to 35/95F in the shade. And it’s humid here. Outside hot does not feel as bad as inside hot, and you do learn to be still and cool enough. It is not weather to go running, but sitting, in the shade, with a fan? No problem.

Not disagreeing but none of my kids are at all fat and one is so hot-natured, it’s not always just insulation. One of their cousins, too, she was just never cold and always hot.

I did always joke with my ex that I was built spare because I am from the hot part of the world, and he was padded because he was from Michigan.

My kids ranked me as neutral good; you can tear my cafe con leche from my cold dead hands, but never drank milk on it’s own. It’s a fantastic ingredient though.

The wasted space bothers me more. If I am bringing milk for my own coffee, I decant it into a small container. If bringing lunch that needs refrigerated, I take it out of the insulated lunch bag before putting it in the refrigerator! I see huge insulated lunch bags in there, are you literally insulating it against refrigeration, and do you need to take up a cubic foot for your sandwich and apple?

Series-es that I found so much better than expected:

Preacher

Scavengers Reign

Warrior

Movie I found much better than expected:

Wicked Little Letters

This actually happened to me. The doctor said the birth control was raising my blood pressure. I said “I don’t think so” but turns out she was right. So I quit them and immediately got pregnant.

But when you say “occasional headaches”? The other thing I found out when I quit them is that they were amplifying my migraines quite a lot. Occasional headaches does not adequately describe that pain, vomiting from the pain.

(ETA - the copper IUD was also a nightmare for me, but eventually landed on the hormonal IUD and that was fantastic, those got me through to menopause - Birth Control doesn’t have to be the pills, and not all of the ‘hormonal’ methods are the same. And an IUD will last longer than the current administration)

I don’t think a family of 4 with 100k gross is buying a car a year. Even my legit rich FIL gets one every 3 years or so. Though he doesn’t play at trying to make them run forever like we do. Even having enough now to pay for maintaining an older one (11) feels so luxurious to me compared to my past.

Not arguing with anything but your numbers. Gross pay is not net pay. My net is 60% of my gross with family health insurance taken out , and taxes (but mostly health insurance).

So that could be closer to 5k a month, let’s say 6 to be generous. Rent here for anything that will fit a family is close to 3k. Another thousand on top for student loans, then electric bill, car insurance or transit $, more people means more food, I can see it might be tight.

Still not anything to really complain about money wise but legit IMO to complain about student loans in general. Education from K through university or trade school needs to be free for students, the economy would work better.

It’s a little worse than that, believe it or not. That site development was abandoned in the first place because of environmental concerns. So it’s harming the Everglades, keeping it from draining as well, meaning it could actually cause worse flooding in a hurricane, FEMA funds being used to make disasters worse.