Thank goodness this never happened to me cause my parents were good parents, it’s just as much the childrens home as the parents and children should be allowed to say “I don’t feel comfortable with another man or woman living hear” Its the parents responsibility to make sure their children are comfortable and feel safe around a new adult. The parent should plan a public meet and greet parent, child, step and after each one the children should have the right to say no more and it end there.
I think asking their opinion on the new adult is fine. Like if my mom started dating a guy who was drunk all the time and made disgusting remarks about her, I’d want her to know I dont like him and he sucks. But i’ll be real with you, when I was a kid and my parents got a divorce I hated every guy my mom saw, and if I had the deciding say as a child she wouldnt be with the man shes with now. But now I realize my stepdad is one of the best people Ive ever met and if I was broken down at 3am 200 miles away all it would take is a phone call and he’d be getting his boots on to come help. I dont think children are mature enough to be the deciding factor of a decision like this
I too had great step dad. Yeah I agree kids should not have a say unless that person is a horrible person.