LoL, two words I would not use to describe myself, hot and dad. Though I admit at this point in my life it is difficult to find someone who doesn’t have children. Yeah I know I’m gameable, that’s probably something that subconsciously is holding me back. I know that when I fall for someone, I fall hard. It’s not “thinking with the wrong head” it’s thinking “don’t screw this up because you’ll be alone forever”. Maybe now that I’m comfortable being alone I can be a bit more relaxed in a relationship.
Probably. I have never fallen softly, so I don’t think that’s the issue :) You need to be yourself to see if the other likes your real self, which I know is a saying that you hear too often but it’s like when you get insight and understand it from your own perspective that it makes a difference. If you feel great alone, let someone into that, instead of diving into someone else’s world and abandoning everything in the name of agreeableness. It’s just my experience and may not be the same for you. But let me tell you many adore hot dads and you don’t need kids to be one :P
That would be a major character flaw of mine, when I fall for someone I will suppress myself because I know I have ADHD and when I get excited I can be a bit much. And let’s face it, when I first fall for someone I’m a bit excited.
I get what you’re saying but it is kind of a funny paradox, if you like being alone bring someone into that. But I know you’re saying find someone who’s ok with what I like, staying home a lot, and will understand when I randomly get up and go get on my computer because the ADHD brain just had an idea and needs to go down the rabbit hole “sorry Hun, I’ll be back in 5 to 7 hours” lol.
Thanks for the advice, it’s definitely something to think about and remember if I do find that special shut in hermit that completes me.
Well I have the dad belly… so that’s something! Also I do have an unhealthy love of dad jokes, and by unhealthy I mean one coworker has threatened me if I told another one…all in jest of course.
LoL, two words I would not use to describe myself, hot and dad. Though I admit at this point in my life it is difficult to find someone who doesn’t have children. Yeah I know I’m gameable, that’s probably something that subconsciously is holding me back. I know that when I fall for someone, I fall hard. It’s not “thinking with the wrong head” it’s thinking “don’t screw this up because you’ll be alone forever”. Maybe now that I’m comfortable being alone I can be a bit more relaxed in a relationship.
Probably. I have never fallen softly, so I don’t think that’s the issue :) You need to be yourself to see if the other likes your real self, which I know is a saying that you hear too often but it’s like when you get insight and understand it from your own perspective that it makes a difference. If you feel great alone, let someone into that, instead of diving into someone else’s world and abandoning everything in the name of agreeableness. It’s just my experience and may not be the same for you. But let me tell you many adore hot dads and you don’t need kids to be one :P
That would be a major character flaw of mine, when I fall for someone I will suppress myself because I know I have ADHD and when I get excited I can be a bit much. And let’s face it, when I first fall for someone I’m a bit excited.
I get what you’re saying but it is kind of a funny paradox, if you like being alone bring someone into that. But I know you’re saying find someone who’s ok with what I like, staying home a lot, and will understand when I randomly get up and go get on my computer because the ADHD brain just had an idea and needs to go down the rabbit hole “sorry Hun, I’ll be back in 5 to 7 hours” lol.
Thanks for the advice, it’s definitely something to think about and remember if I do find that special shut in hermit that completes me.
Well I have the dad belly… so that’s something! Also I do have an unhealthy love of dad jokes, and by unhealthy I mean one coworker has threatened me if I told another one…all in jest of course.