Not as much as you think. (That Rick and Morty episode is probably more accurate to what most millennial women would want…) I understand body dysmorphia, I get feeling insecure about your body - that’s kinda what the point of bringing up my transness in the conversation.

I do think porn might be doing to young men something along the lines of what beauty culture does to young women’s bodies. I am empathetic, but in general the impact your penis size has on your life is almost always irrelevant to its outcomes, barring those bell curves and your own self fulfilling prophecies.

The idea that this insecurity can motivate forms of fascism can be important to point out. There does to be an obsession with “virility” on Elon Musk’s part, from the “spread my genetics everywhere” grossness. The kinds of men who join fascistic movements are often motivated by feelings of sexual inadequacy and an obsession with machismo.

There’s nothing wrong with being a man, but I think a tool in dismantling that kind of compensating masculinity that harms others is pointing out what it does possibly root to for them. Freud was full of shit, but he had some things right.

We should call forms of masculinity that are harmful unmasculine behavior and mock people who exhibit such traits out of our community. Maybe I’m trying a Dances with Wolves or Avatar here but there’s some use in having waltzed around a lot of sides of the line.