Had someone ask me if I was interested in applying for a position that was potentially opening up on his team yesterday and I’ve been stun locked since that conversation. I haven’t even applied or anything yet…
This is often called “waiting mode” and there are strategies to help deal with it. For me, that’s alarms. If I have an appointment, I’ll set alarms for when to be in the shower, out of the shower, and out the door. It allows you to actually relax.
/me keeps checking alarm and that I have it set right, how much time until the alarm goes off vs the event the alarm is set for.
I calculate how long it will take me to get ready and get there so I can procrastinate to the last second without having to rush.
I hate this part of the brain. I have an appointment at 2pm. Why must I be awake at 9 and… waiting. Anxiously.
Can’t get into something else and miss the appointment!
This is one of the worst parts of it for me. I can’t enjoy a late shift at work because all morning I’m just dreading going in. Same with any later appointment, too. Even plans with friends at night is stressful.
I would doom scroll in my bedroom for hours before going to my night shift.
catch me spending 6 hours stressing over an appointment that’s over in less than 20 minutes
Hmm, 8 hours until I have to go to work? Better start pacing now…
The way I’ve (sorta) gotten around this is to meticulously plan the day before the appointment, even if it’s bullshit like “play videogames from 11a-2p”. Hell, I usually don’t even stick to the plan, just use it to get me started on doing something until it’s time for whatever.
When I meticulously plan to play videogames I always end up doing housework or working on some other project instead. My adhd won’t even let me have fun unless I’m not supposed to be.
Is this an ADHD thing?
Can be. I’m always on edge about forgetting and being late to appointments due to time management issues, so having an appointment late in the day means I’m fixating on it all day.
Hmm, I see. I do this all the time as well. Always wonder with memes can I just relate because they’re ordinary human reactions or traits or actual indicators of some kind.
Part of the problem with ADHD diagnoses is that a lot of it is just normal stuff everybody experiences, but way too much. If you poop once a day it’s normal, if you’re pooping 10 times a day you go see a doctor, you know?
So not enjoying making calls is normal, but if it twists you up in knots and you are putting it off even when you WANT to do it just to get it over with, that’s the kind of thing that can be indicative of something else going on.
Edit: lmao, somehow I mixed up this and a post about hating making calls, but the same concept applies to keeping track of time for appointments too.
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