That’s the best way I can describe it. Just neverending. Which sounds obvious but the actual experience of always having to parent, phew…
I’m not having the best day today. He’s on summer break and hanging with me all day. We did okay yesterday but today it was just a domino of me feeling disappointed in myself that the house is always a mess and probably a level beyond that, like there’s too much stuff to fit. But my own level of non-cleanliness has rubbed off on my kid cause there’s no proper place to put his stuff. So I started cleaning then asked him to do some small tasks but I was feeling resentful for how he seems to just drop things wherever. I get it, you also got to teach them how to clean up and implement chores etc. and thus adds to the relentless grind of having to have these long term parenting plans but also try to be present in the moment and enjoy things and somehow have endless stores of patience. Today I definitely haven’t. I’ve lost my shit and yelled and just let things domino out of control into a terrible grouchiness. I know some days suck and we get up and try again. Just wanted to get it out I guess. No advice needed. Just ranting to rant.
The combination here is what “worked” for a while I guess, but as women started working full-time and men started also caring for the kids, you then have two adults now working full-time while at the same time raising kids, and that’s stressful as hell. I know, I have two kids and work full-time. It’s stressful as hell.
It definitely, definitely was not meant to be this way. That was your main point I think from the start, and that is 1 million percent true.
❤️ I agree 100%
My girlfriend is stressed out all the time, especially when our son has holiday from school/kindergarten (right in transition from kindergarten to school right now) and I do all I can to support her, and got burned out as well 3 months ago
Next month, I will reduce to 70% and she starts to stop working for a organisation that more and more turns to shit as they did a restructuring and have now a management only caring about numbers.
It should work out financially as, from kindergarten to school, we have to pay less for child caring institutions, that made it possible to continue her profession (she is gold smith teacher)
Luckily she can work now again for the person where she did the apprenticeship (she had a very good time there) and can possibly take over the buisness when her mentor retires ☺️
I know that we are lucky having such Options, and it make me sad thinking about all the other people not having such options
🫶🏻you do a great job 👏 Keep on it, it is hard, and way to less people see that
❤️you can do it 💪🏻
(I and my son are neurodivergent, so that complicates stuff even more 🤣)