Whenever you’re in new situations, it’s ok to not know how to behave, you never did that before and, unless someone walked you thru, you won’t know about hidden rules. Like the first time doing a job interview, or the first time going out on a romantic date. The difference is that in some settings, everyone is so used to everyone “knowing” that they really can’t fathom someone not knowing
Funny bit, I recall a piece on the local TV showing a tourist (I think he was German or French) who visited Brazil for the first time. He went to a self service restaurant, but just sat there, waiting for someone to give him a menu, for like 15 minutes until a woman approached him and asked if everything was ok. “Everyone” knows you’re supposed to pick a plate and serve your own plate with the available food in these restaurants.
Whenever you’re in new situations, it’s ok to not know how to behave, you never did that before and, unless someone walked you thru, you won’t know about hidden rules. Like the first time doing a job interview, or the first time going out on a romantic date. The difference is that in some settings, everyone is so used to everyone “knowing” that they really can’t fathom someone not knowing
Funny bit, I recall a piece on the local TV showing a tourist (I think he was German or French) who visited Brazil for the first time. He went to a self service restaurant, but just sat there, waiting for someone to give him a menu, for like 15 minutes until a woman approached him and asked if everything was ok. “Everyone” knows you’re supposed to pick a plate and serve your own plate with the available food in these restaurants.