• merc@sh.itjust.works
    25·
    19 hours ago

    “Touching his food” can run the gamut between:

    Take one of his potato chips and eat it

    to

    Stick my thumb in his soup

    If a friend or family member took one of my potato chips and ate it, I’d probably be fine with it. At worst I’d be a little annoyed. If an acquaintance or cow-orker did that it would be a little more strange, but not the end of the world. But, the other end of the spectrum is much weirder.

    Grabbing a potato chip, if done carefully, will mean not touching anything else. Any dirt or germs on the toucher’s hands aren’t going to get spread around the rest of the food, but touching a liquid or something with sauce on it is different. IMO, touching someone’s pasta is definitely on the germ-spreading end of the scale.

    • TʜᴇʀᴀᴘʏGⒶʀʏ⁽ᵗʰᵉʸ‘ᵗʰᵉᵐ⁾@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
      7·
      19 hours ago

      I can’t respond to your other comment bc snooggums is banned from my instance

      It’s one of those things that works in movies because it’s something you can get away with if you’re incredibly attractive. There’s a whole stock images category involving girls licking their fingers, mostly in a seductive style. But, in the real world, it’s something you do with your husband or long-term partner, not a random cow-orker.

      I think this is what people aren’t understanding. Someone who does this repeatedly surely must have learned that it’s okay/works from a history of doing it, so they’re probably very attractive. I’m pretty confident that most normies would react much more playfully/positively than the responses in the comments here if an incredibly attractive person did this to them. If the goal is to swap spit anyway, you’re not gonna be thinking about the germs on their fingers