Some call it a friendship recession: a time when close male friendships sink to their lowest. Here’s how friendships for straight men fall to the wayside – and what could bring them together
I’m in the same boat, undiagnosed AuDHD for most of my life until very recent
We are in almost exactly the same boat. Didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until about 7 years ago. Then, once initial ADHD was a bit under control, the ASD side of things became more apparent.
What spaces would that be?
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I’d love to get in touch with LGBTQ folks but have no idea where to start (yeah sure, there are a lot of places online, but I’d prefer actual face-to-face activities)
It really depends on your interests. I’ve had some good success with sex-positive/kink communities (still in an extended initial exploration of the latter). There’s a surprising amount of neurodiverse and wonderfully nerdy presence there as well as extraordinary levels of inclusivity. Probably the best places to go looking are event-oriented sites and apps (probably give apps by dating companies a miss).
Even if that isn’t quite your thing, I might recommend trying out “Plura” (formerly Bloom, I think), if there’s presence in your area. There are a lot of events that pop up that are not sexuality or kink related as well as, at least in my area, frequent free and reasonable cost seminars. These are often covering topics that are of potential use for neurodivergent people as well as more neurotypical people who have experienced trauma and/or, like many straight men, are not very knowledgeable/skilled with their emotions.
Sexuality and kink is right down my alley, I’m just too shy to talk about such topics with strangers. I’m gonna look into it anyway, thank you for your suggestions.
Just find a scheduled non-sexual kink event in your area (like a munch) and pregame with whatever mind altering substance improves your social anxiety enough to walk in the door. I recommend hard Arnold Palmers, since they taste good (or at least okay), contain caffeine to up your energy levels a bit, and are available at most gas stations/liquor stores.
We are in almost exactly the same boat. Didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until about 7 years ago. Then, once initial ADHD was a bit under control, the ASD side of things became more apparent.
It really depends on your interests. I’ve had some good success with sex-positive/kink communities (still in an extended initial exploration of the latter). There’s a surprising amount of neurodiverse and wonderfully nerdy presence there as well as extraordinary levels of inclusivity. Probably the best places to go looking are event-oriented sites and apps (probably give apps by dating companies a miss).
Even if that isn’t quite your thing, I might recommend trying out “Plura” (formerly Bloom, I think), if there’s presence in your area. There are a lot of events that pop up that are not sexuality or kink related as well as, at least in my area, frequent free and reasonable cost seminars. These are often covering topics that are of potential use for neurodivergent people as well as more neurotypical people who have experienced trauma and/or, like many straight men, are not very knowledgeable/skilled with their emotions.
Sexuality and kink is right down my alley, I’m just too shy to talk about such topics with strangers. I’m gonna look into it anyway, thank you for your suggestions.
Just find a scheduled non-sexual kink event in your area (like a munch) and pregame with whatever mind altering substance improves your social anxiety enough to walk in the door. I recommend hard Arnold Palmers, since they taste good (or at least okay), contain caffeine to up your energy levels a bit, and are available at most gas stations/liquor stores.