Yeah, I can see why you got the old nut and bolt, if that’s your take from Dan The Spool Of Wire Man. You didn’t get it anymore than his wife did. “I’ve had this spool of wire for 40 years, it used to be this big, now it’s about out.” He’s having some pretty heavy thoughts about his life, where he is in it, how much of it is left, what it’s all meant. And before he even gets a real chance to articulate all that, didn’t even get a chance to get to the feelings part, his wife interrupts him to give him shit about his hat. And just watch him shut down.
A woman that views that clip and perceives it as a “sweet sentimental moment” isn’t empathizing with men. Those men that pumped and dumped you, that you thought you felt a connection with? Yeah they didn’t, and I can see why. Gave you the old Phillip J. Fry: Just make up some feelings and tell her you have them.
As for all that crap about cups of coffee…In my home, if I want something to drink, I prepare it and drink it. If I want something to eat, I cook it and eat it. I’ve been single for a shade over 5 years now and not a single meal in my house has turned into a game of feelings jenga. And if I’m going to live the next 40 years of my life alone, sleeping alone, waking alone, eating alone, drinking alone, working alone, resting alone, dying alone, it will be a bargain price to pay to never again emotionally posture over who makes a fucking cup of coffee.
I didn’t watch the whole video not gonna lie. Sorry about that, maybe the clip I saw wasn’t the whole thing, because I missed all that.
Im glad you’re preparing for your loneliness. The men of my father’s gen didn’t seem as prepared as you. I didn’t know being kind to my love was “a feelings game”. We don’t see it that way, but least you know who you are, that’s good.
Have a good day and best of luck to you in your endeavors.
Edit, watched the whole clip. I thought to review it yesterday and didn’t, my bad honestly, I wish I had. I see what you mean now. I totally missed the wife’s role when I barely saw it months ago. Saw where he says, okay I’m done.
Remembering why I dismissed the video, and many videos- because who goes to check on their partner with their phone in hand like that? What type of person, sees their husband feeling emotional and drags out their phone to record them? Its weird. The whole thing is fucking wierd to me. If my husband came out to me, phone in my face, my first address before speaking would be why are you recoding me? Stop.
I don’t know these people, and I am certainly not about to assign a generalization to society based off these two folks encounter. She is being dismissive in a moment he is being introspective. How many times have generders been reversed, or the same as eachother, where one person is being insightful/ introspective, and another human comes along to rag on them about it? We also don’t know what these two history is, nor do I care. Time fascinates me, especially it’s passage, 40 years is a long time, I get the sentiment, which is why I only remembered his voice not hers when recalling my memory of the video.
Im not going to base my own outlook on life on some person not understanding the sentiment, she was recording, why was she recording? She clearly had the joke in her head already, it would not have mattered what he said, she was already planning to say that it seems. The type of person who records/uploads videos of their family so often if fills a data center probably doesn’t have much introspection themselves. Those types I’m not friends with. It’s so weird. The dude was totally having a moment, and a sweet one at that, and yeah, she turns it to a joke. “Aww can’t you take a joke?” I can hear the voices from people who have said this to me. This isn’t some isolated incident- like, raise your hand if youve had a sentimental moment interrupted by someone being rude for laughs.
Anyway, agree with you about the video, still hold a different outlook on finding and holding love.
Wishing you the best man, I’ll give the next dog I meet extra pets for being a good boy in your honor.
Yeah, I can see why you got the old nut and bolt, if that’s your take from Dan The Spool Of Wire Man. You didn’t get it anymore than his wife did. “I’ve had this spool of wire for 40 years, it used to be this big, now it’s about out.” He’s having some pretty heavy thoughts about his life, where he is in it, how much of it is left, what it’s all meant. And before he even gets a real chance to articulate all that, didn’t even get a chance to get to the feelings part, his wife interrupts him to give him shit about his hat. And just watch him shut down.
A woman that views that clip and perceives it as a “sweet sentimental moment” isn’t empathizing with men. Those men that pumped and dumped you, that you thought you felt a connection with? Yeah they didn’t, and I can see why. Gave you the old Phillip J. Fry: Just make up some feelings and tell her you have them.
As for all that crap about cups of coffee…In my home, if I want something to drink, I prepare it and drink it. If I want something to eat, I cook it and eat it. I’ve been single for a shade over 5 years now and not a single meal in my house has turned into a game of feelings jenga. And if I’m going to live the next 40 years of my life alone, sleeping alone, waking alone, eating alone, drinking alone, working alone, resting alone, dying alone, it will be a bargain price to pay to never again emotionally posture over who makes a fucking cup of coffee.
I didn’t watch the whole video not gonna lie. Sorry about that, maybe the clip I saw wasn’t the whole thing, because I missed all that.
Im glad you’re preparing for your loneliness. The men of my father’s gen didn’t seem as prepared as you. I didn’t know being kind to my love was “a feelings game”. We don’t see it that way, but least you know who you are, that’s good.
Have a good day and best of luck to you in your endeavors.
Edit, watched the whole clip. I thought to review it yesterday and didn’t, my bad honestly, I wish I had. I see what you mean now. I totally missed the wife’s role when I barely saw it months ago. Saw where he says, okay I’m done.
Remembering why I dismissed the video, and many videos- because who goes to check on their partner with their phone in hand like that? What type of person, sees their husband feeling emotional and drags out their phone to record them? Its weird. The whole thing is fucking wierd to me. If my husband came out to me, phone in my face, my first address before speaking would be why are you recoding me? Stop.
I don’t know these people, and I am certainly not about to assign a generalization to society based off these two folks encounter. She is being dismissive in a moment he is being introspective. How many times have generders been reversed, or the same as eachother, where one person is being insightful/ introspective, and another human comes along to rag on them about it? We also don’t know what these two history is, nor do I care. Time fascinates me, especially it’s passage, 40 years is a long time, I get the sentiment, which is why I only remembered his voice not hers when recalling my memory of the video.
Im not going to base my own outlook on life on some person not understanding the sentiment, she was recording, why was she recording? She clearly had the joke in her head already, it would not have mattered what he said, she was already planning to say that it seems. The type of person who records/uploads videos of their family so often if fills a data center probably doesn’t have much introspection themselves. Those types I’m not friends with. It’s so weird. The dude was totally having a moment, and a sweet one at that, and yeah, she turns it to a joke. “Aww can’t you take a joke?” I can hear the voices from people who have said this to me. This isn’t some isolated incident- like, raise your hand if youve had a sentimental moment interrupted by someone being rude for laughs.
Anyway, agree with you about the video, still hold a different outlook on finding and holding love.
Wishing you the best man, I’ll give the next dog I meet extra pets for being a good boy in your honor.