I think its fair to say, myself included, many women want to date older men, not 20 years older, but at least a few. For me it was like 1-4 years older is good for me.

Honestly when dating, I found better results not worrying so much about age, but rather where their standing was within siblings and family.

As in, I am the eldest child, and my best relationships are with other eldest (or only) children. When I would date the youngest of a family, the dynamic was so different, and I could tell he was babied by his mom growing up, I unconsciously had less respect for him. I broke up with him when I realized it consciously. He ended up marrying a nice girl years later, I learned she’s also the youngest in her family, they match.

I’m being so unserious, and I’ve had relationships not work out with other eldest sibling people, but it’s something I noticed when I was dating. I married an eldest child, and we’re peas in a fucking pod. It probably has something to do with they way our world view forms growing up in our familial hierarchy.