Somewhat the opposite. My mom started “borrowing” money from me when I was a teenager. I was too trusting, but eventually i learned to say “no”.

Fuck, I haven’t thought about any of this in a long time. My mom was awful.

Edit:

I forgot to explain why borrow was in quotes. Most of the time I never got paid back. I still believe she intended on paying me back, but was never able to get ahead financially enough to do it. In general if she borrowed less than $100 she’d get it back to me and pretty quickly. Over $100 it would take her too long to save it up and she’d forget about it.

What about phrasing it so the effort isn’t on you, but them?

“I’ve never really felt comfortable around [describe group]”. This way, the failure isn’t yours to get comfortable, but on them to mwake you comfortable.

I didn’t leave the original comment, but I would say it certainly makes some parts of parenting easier. We just adopted a dog, and it has helped in strange ways. Expected ways such as my kid is much better about picking up his toys, putting away his laundry, and not leaving his shoes random places, but also it gives him something else to interact with that isn’t a glowing rectangle, or asking me a million questions.

For me an email is when I don’t need a quick response. A text is when I want a faster response but I don’t want to interrupt what the other person is doing. A call is when I want a quick response and I think it’s worth interrupting the person.

I very rarely call.

Hmm. I think I may have to try a golden one.

Right, I agree with you there. I guess I should invert my question. If you’re tipping the driver, what is the delivery fee for?

These two costs seem redundant.

Wow. Just wow.

If you are paying separately for the delivery, what is the tip for?

This image makes me uncomfortable.

I’m trying this.

Depending on my mood I go butter and brown sugar, or olive oil, garlic, and Parmesan.

I eat the skin of regular kiwi’s. Am I not supposed to?

I have a whiteboard in my kitchen. Amongst other things, on it I keep a list of perishable foods that we have on hand. When I am trying to figure out what I am going to cook, I can look at the list and not have to think about every ingredient I own, And only focus on things that will go off soon. I usually don’t include the common items we tend to go through often.

Sometimes I also include leftovers that need to be finished, and unusual ingredients I bought impulsively because I thought I wanted to try making something new but than lost focus/motivation to actually make something with them.

It’s not a great system, but it helps me waste less.

Find a purpose that motivates you. For some people that is exploring, for others it is expressing themselves creatively, or helping people, or fighting for a cause you believe in, or trying to make the perfect baked potato.

I don’t know your specific limitations. Perhaps there is motivation in overcoming them, or helping others so they won’t have them too?

You were a little sparse with details, and I trust you have your reasons. Depending on this situation this advice could be pretty insensitive. My goal is not to offend or upset. I hope I haven’t.

Fun fact: the word “spaceman” was originally used to described a journalist who was paid by how much space they could fill. Quoting etymonline com: “journalist paid by the length of copy”.

It didn’t get used to describe a person from space until the the 1940s.

I respect the concern, but if you already ate the bacon that left you with the fat, hasn’t a fair amount of the damage already been done?

It’s also called redundancy.

We just adopted a dog, and my 6yo son wanted to hold the leash on a walk. I told him if he wants to hold the leash than he is responsible for picking up the poo if he makes any. The dog pooped, my son grumped about having to pick it up, and was all “why do I have to do it?”.

Points for him, he powered through and picked it up. About a minute later he said to me “actually dad, I kinda liked picking it up!”. Now he wants to pick up the poo every time even if he isn’t the one holding the leash.

Such a weird kid.

Such a weird idea. I want to try it.

This doesn’t answer your question, but I just had a great idea for an art project which includes detailed applications of different protection levels of sunblock, and a tanning bed.

I guess stripes would be an easy place to start. Who wants to try it?