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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • I have a set of values:

    • Be social
    • Seek autonomy
    • Give solidarity
    • Live in community
    • Be healthy
    • Have a clean home
    • Work is to support other values, it’s not a value itself

    And so on…

    The choice i make is the one that aligns best with my values. If i have time to think that is. Otherwise my subconscious picks it’s own weights.

    There’s a hierarchy to the values but they change in substance and position over time. That’s by design. Humans grow and change.

    Circularity and contradiction? That’s fine. As long as it’s aligned with my values I know I’m unlikely to regret it.





  • This seems to be working for me so far…

    What are your values in life? To have a rich social life? To be healthy? To be successful at work? To have a clean, welcoming place?

    Ok pick one small everyday change that aligns with one or many of those values. (E.g. do your dishes after you eat - aligns with clean house and social).

    You could probably do this for a week or two. Keep framing it in terms of how it aligns with your values, and any success you’re having.

    However, you’ll probably fail. That’s when we have to pay attention to emotions. Why did you stop? How do you feel about that? (Anxiety and simple distraction for me. It is mentally cheaper to ignore a task than overcome my anxiety until the task becomes the primary source. So my brain makes me forget to do the basic thing ahead of time. These add up when it’s literally EVERYTHING)

    Now you can choose how to react. Do you simply need to keep trying? Do you need to reevaluate the tasks value proposition? Do you need to work on a higher value or lower cost task? In other words, how do i make my actions better aligned with my values such that it’s worth doing?

    Now do the thing you chose. (This is the Bojack meme part)

    I’m only a few weeks into this but it feels like I’ve unlocked a super power, i have nonzero motivation when I’m feeling up and i can at least point to the clean sink when I’m feeling down. Just having a thought process and decision framework where there was none before is huge! This is coming off YEARS of feeling hopeless and wandering onto the “not worth living side”. So while it’s still fresh and fragile, I’ll take a few weeks of hope at any rate.






  • The animation and soundtrack actually didn’t bother me after the first couple arcs. I think it has a lot to do with how the show engages with emotions. It’s not meant to dig too deep. It’s supposed to be a sort of all ages work and it achieves that. I can totally see how people enjoy it btw. Not knocking it, it’s a really big accomplishment in its own right. It just lost my interest after a while. If it evolves beyond there, it wasn’t fast enough for me. Which is weird, because i usually like slow burns.