I’m not sure I understand your feelings, but I’m going to offer uninformed advice anyway.

First of all, what does an ‘alternative option’ mean? Does the rest of your family pick a single thing off the menu, and you’re embarrassed you don’t want to eat the same thing, or is it more like you go by the drive through of another restaurant than everybody else? Picking different options off the same menu is generally the norm where I am, so I don’t think other people would find it that weird. If it’s the latter, I think most people would interpret that as you making a strong effort to engage and be supportive of your family, even it’s difficult for you.

As for your family being concerned about the amount you eat, there are a couple ways you could approach it. The easiest way would probably be lying about having eaten before. People are very unlikely to be concerned about you eating too little if you say you already ate beforehand. It can be a little bit rude if you know someone will be cooking in advance, though.

The second option would be saying you have a slow metabolism. This option wouldn’t completely stop your family worrying about your food intake, but over a long period of time your family will probably pick up the hint.

The third option would be to increase your metabolism through exercise, so you’re more hungry and eat more. This is kind of a weird option, but it also gets close to the root of the problem.

Regardless of which option you take, it seems like your family is trying to accommodate you, even if they’re doing it poorly. In these situations, being direct and honest can be very useful, since they are likely to accept your feedback. First of all, try to examine all the support they are already giving. If there are any situations when they anticipate your needs accurately, tell them that those situations are very helpful for you. If there are any situations where that isn’t the case, try and tell them why it went wrong and if you actually want support in that case. A very useful phrase is “I need to learn how to do X on my own.” It both explains why you want them to stop, while at the same time it doesn’t imply they’ve done anything wrong. Lastly, regarding the restaurant thing, try to be clear about your feelings, why you are embarrassed, and if you want help trying to solve that issue. They will probably try to brainstorm different ways to ease your embarrassment, and they might have different ideas than you.

If your family is being earnest about trying to help, the best thing you can be is earnest about the help you need.

What’s your preferred default pronoun? As far as I’m aware, there isn’t a universally accepted replacement, since any pronoun comes with drawbacks. ‘he’ & ‘she’ are gendered, ‘it’ typically refers to non-sentient things, and ‘they’ can cause confusion about number. Of course, there’s also neopronouns, but people have come up with a billion, and there’s no consensus or standard, so I can’t confirm the person I’m talking to will understand.

Supported typing/facilitated communication is widely regarded as a pseudoscience. Studies have shown that FC is unable to produce answers not known by the facilitator. FC proponents believe that autistic individuals have the same linguistic ability as neurotypical individuals, and difficulty speaking is merely a motor issue.

As someone with autism, I can tell you: my brain can barely keep up with conversation. It’s not a motor issue. I have to actively think about appropriate word choice, how to structure sentences correctly, and neurotypicals don’t. If I don’t take enough time to finish the sentence in my head, the intonation is wrong, I’ll skip words, put them out of order, and just generally be unintelligible.

FC, like many other ‘theories’ surrounding autism, are made by people who have put years into researching autism, but have never thought to ask an autistic person anything about their experience.

Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facilitated_communication

I’m aware of that, but what I don’t know is if background processing usually interferes with regular processing. I do occasionally step back from a problem specifically to let my subconscious process it, but that doesn’t typically come at the cost of other things I can think about; It doesn’t cause me to see, think, or do any mental processing worse.

I don’t think a ‘zero-sum game’ ever occurs for other people’s subconscious problem solving.

Neurodivergent guys be like: “I have to account for every single possible way someone could react to something, because otherwise I’ll say something rude and the two people who voluntarily talk to me will hate me.”

The double-down is so much worse than the original statement.

This guy has made a whole lot of tutorials for various assembly languages and systems, including the pet. The website has text tutorials, but if you prefer he also has a YouTube channel.

I really like that lemmy is small enough that I can recognize people by their individual writing style—Hello, thorn guy!

My dyspraxia (and dysgraphia) aren’t very pronounced, but they’re in that range where I am significantly less coordinated than other people, but not enough that people recognize the disability. I didn’t even know I had dysgraphia until my senior year of highschool, and my mom refused to believe I had dyspraxia.

Whenever I draw on a digital tablet, I have to use fast arcs and lines because my hands wobble too much when I draw slow, intentional lines.

I’ve been practicing the piano recently. I wouldn’t say I can play the piano, since I can’t associate each key with the note they play, but I am apparently good at improvising. I can’t use two hands at the same time, and when I play too fast my fingers press the keys in the wrong order, but I am slowly getting better.

I struggle to learn rust because the semantics and syntax are just so awful. I would love to be enthusiastic about rust, since every seems to love it, but I can’t get over that hurdle. Backporting the features into C, or even just making a transpiler from C to rust that uses annotations would be great for me. But the rust community really does not seem interested in making stepping stones from other languages to rust.

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From my experience, being “good” at vibe coding is more about being unable to detect flaws in AI generated code rather than being able to code well. Add AI to the workflow of someone who actually understands scalability and maintenance and that won’t be able to get past a couple functions before they drop the AI.

Also, assuming this kid gets weekends off, he would be writing 12k lines of code each day. I don’t think the average programmer could even review that number of lines in a day, so there’s likely no actual supervision for what the kid is feeding into the codebase.

I’d estimate within four months the project will be impenetrable, and they’ll scrap the whole thing.

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The best answer I’ve heard. It is both a “you don’t care about the answer, so I’ll just give you a canned response” answer and a direct commentary about the social ritual.

I don’t understand how not using a keyword to define a function causes the meaning to change depending on imports. I’ve never run into an issue like that before. Can you give an example?

After reading a lot of comments in this thread, I’m not sure I know what spaghetti code is. I thought spaghetti code was when the order of execution was obfuscated due to excessive jumps and GOTOs. But a lot of people are citing languages without those as examples of spaghetti code. Is this just a classic “I don’t like this programming language, and I don’t know much about it.” Or is there something I’m missing?

I don’t understand the perspective that people should be more lazy. When people have lazy coworkers, they tend to suffer since they have to go above and beyond to get a task done. It’s like having a group project in school, and there’s the one guy that just does the bare minimum, so you have to work twice as hard so your grade doesn’t go down.

And if everyone simultaneously became lazy, that would be a disaster too. You don’t want hospitals or firefighters to suddenly decide they want to just run down the clock instead of doing the best job they can.

If you look at it only through the perspective of the morality of labor, it makes sense to say the rich are lazy and so it’s fair for the poor to be equally lazy, but when you look at the larger picture, it’s a lot less cut and dry.

The truth is, our current standard of living is based on the amount of work people do. If everyone suddenly became less productive, we would enter a recession or an economic depression.

You could do this in basic ASCII, with only three defines. replace "_ " with “{”, replace “_;” with “}”, and “_” with nothing. If your compiler processes macros in the correct order, it will become valid code. (You would use semicolons as the vertical lines)

I would be so much more positive about this if you linked the actual source, not just an article that regurgitates everything word for word. Also, why is this article on ‘indian defense review?’ India and Pakistan nearly had a nuclear war this morning.

There’s a streamer called vedal[some numbers here, I forgot] that might be autistic—I’m not sure if he is, but he’s certainly shy and has difficulty expressing emotion. He made an AI vtuber thing called ‘neuro-sama’ it’s only really interesting because it’s an LLM in a real-time scenario.