This is something that lemmy devs need to better address. This is an “Eternal September” kind of situation. People (me included) are not used to the fediverse. They think you can participate only if you’re in that instance. And people want content, so they think "why’s the instance with most people? Ahh lemmy.ml? Cool, let’s join.
I kind go 80/20 Sequel/EsQueueEl (squeal wtf?) when talking in english and “Ese Cu Ele” 100% when talking in Spanish