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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Before I had kids I would’ve been right there with you, but I am in a completely different mindspace anytime I’m caring for my kids than when I’m not.

    When I’m in “dad mode” there’s a significant portion of my attention that’s constantly running through “Are the kids getting into trouble? When did I last see them? When were they last fed/watered/potty breaks? Are we about to pass something that they’ll see and decide they need to go to and therefore cost more time/money than I’ve budgeted for this trip and should I be taking a different route to avoid it? When did I last observe the kids alive, has it been more than 60 seconds I need to check on them again…” And the only way to break out of dad mode is if somebody else has taken over active care/monitoring of the kids or if the kids are both asleep in their beds. It’s a biological state that I seriously did not know was possible, and I simply can’t turn it off.

    So when I say I can’t forget my kids in the car, this is what I mean, I’m so actively aware of my kids location and status at all times that I’m the primary caretaker that they can’t even try to wander off in a park or store without my noticing












  • I can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic or not but I worked with someone who watched LTT religiously and seemed to get most of his training from LTT. I spent a lot of time figuring out what he did or didn’t do, writing the documentation he didn’t write them fixing what he built incorrectly. LTT tries their best but their background is purely in gaming computers and it really shows, especially with the repeated IT failures that really shouldn’t be happening in an organization of their size



  • Based on my recent meeting with someone from the retirement planning arm of my bank, high interest savings is ideal for an emergency fund. If you’re keeping 10-20k sitting around it’s just going to keep losing value in any traditional savings account. But having the rest in an IRA or RothIRA (US-specific tax advantaged retirement accounts. Basically one is taxed as money enters the other is taxed as money exits, and there’s limitations to try to prevent abuse by the ultra-rich) can lead to significantly higher interest. He ran a report of “if we took your 401ks that we’re rolling together and they just lived in this account over the last 30 years of markets here’s what you’d have” and the answer was actually a lot more favorable than I expected.