No, spending time with someone means doing something you both enjoy. At least it is in my book.

My 7 year old son generally understands that when we watch TV or movies together we all pick a family show or movie to watch together, and not just whatever he wants. Or if someone vetos a suggestion you counter-offer as well.

So if she suggests brain rot, you suggest something you both might like. The Wild Robot recently came out on streaming and was a really great movie. She might like that if you are hurting for movie ideas.

I know that iPhone supports pretty much any Bluetooth controller.

Joycons, PS4/5 controller, and Xbox controllers all work great on it.