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Joined 2 years ago
Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • Sine Nomen@lemmynsfw.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•People who are or have dated more than one person, how did it work out?
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    6 hours ago

    I have had more relationships after my marriage than before.

    We kind of slipped into it. We always maintained an open relationship in terms of communication. With the arrival of our children we found it harder to pursue our kinkier side with each other so we decided to try it with other people.

    My wife was first. She signed up with BDSM communities, went on dates and went to munches. Eventually I decided I wanted to try that as well. As my first test I signed up to the same site and messaged her without revealing myself. I convinced her to try a date with me with only one simple message. Rizzing the person you love feels good.

    Anyways, going on dates with the knowledge and consent of your partner makes it so much easier than having to conceal them and making up lies. No idea how people do this.

    Relationships we formed were similar to other relationships. Some worked, some didn’t. Most ended amicably, some didn’t. Of course we sought out people who seemed to be ok with the arrangement.

    The pandemic mostly put an end to that and by now life doesn’t leave us enough time or energy to go on. But we do not regret that time. Still keep lose contact with the people we met. Our own relationship is stronger than ever. And we’ll see what the future holds.

  • Sine Nomen@lemmynsfw.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•How do I get rid of my verbal humilation and degradation kink
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    3 days ago

    Or maybe it’s really a normal healthy kink that you could be exploring further.

    I’d advise you to go to Fetlife, look for munches near you, go there and get the vibe of the people. Go several times because vibes can change from week to week.

    You should be able to learn there that the people there aren’t freaks but normal people. That what you’re feeling is normal and that you’re not the only one. And most importantly that you’re not an ugly loser but also a normal person.

    Don’t go there with the expectation of finding a sexual partner. These are supposed to be safe spaces where one can go to exchange feelings and knowledge. Also don’t go there with the expectation that everyone will be talking about sex and BDSM and fetishes all the time. Often enough they talk about all kinds of things.

    If you’re lucky your munch has some kind of way of onboarding new people. The organisers are the right people to talk to. They are usually very nice and not judgemental.