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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • Depending on what you’re looking for “girly” could fit.

    Ex. If a macho man is a “manly man” (which I don’t think is entirely accurate because I think the concept of machismo is much more complex than that), then a “girly girl” would kind of be the equivalent?

    Alternately, “femme” can be used to mean kind of the same thing but more respectfully since “girly” has a rather childish connotation. “Ultra femme” or “High femme” can be used to describe someone that strives for or is the peak of feminity but then… defining what that means is a whole other thing that’s probably just as complex as defining Macho/ Machismo.

    Not sure if this helps but I wish you luck in your search for the word.






  • I’ve written a poem, and a couple stories/ novel length things and I’d say I’m happy with all of them.

    The poem I look back on and think it’s a bit pretentious but it’s a poem and I think all poetry suffers from a bit of “I have the best words” type pretentiousness. It’s deeply meaningful to me and perfectly captures the snapshot of the moment I wrote it so overall I’m happy it exists even if only me and one other person have ever really experienced it.

    Story wise, I have a couple of fanfics I’m varying levels of proud of. There are two unfinished ones for which I’m reserving judgement, two I’m exceedingly happy with and then there’s six or seven more that I’m like “yeah, those may not have been great but they were definitely good”

    The one unfinished project is a trilogy I’m two books into and I think this project will either be my Magnum Opus or a gargantuan effort for little pay off but I won’t know the answer for another year or two.

    Luckily, I enjoy the actual writing part so whether I’m happy with it as a whole doesn’t really matter right now but I hope it turns out to be something I’m proud of. If anything, I’ll have to admire the effort I’ve put in but I hope I can also admire the finished product at the end.



  • I use “tired” for any physical stuff that affects my mood, so if I didn’t sleep, or I’m sick, or on my period, those are the days I’m most likely to mark as “tired”

    I can’t remember why I started tracking (I think I was just curious) but I’m going on four years now and it helps a ton with trends and feeling like I’m not just lying to myself when I want to say something like “I’ve been feeling tired a lot lately”

    Like, before tracking, I don’t think I was even comfortable saying I experience depressive episodes because I just straight up didn’t believe it was that bad, but with real data I’m able to see my “happy” levels declining month to month.

    And “tired” is a useful metric in this context because it denotes days that “tiredness” was interceding on my happiness.

    For example, let’s say I didn’t get a lot of sleep. I struggled through the work day. But I went to see a movie with friends in the evening. If I spent a solid portion of my day not aware or caring that I had been tired, I would mark that day as “happy”

    But if I was tired in the morning, went to work, came home, lumped around for a few hours and went straight to bed, I’d mark that as “tired” and if over 50% of my month is days like that, I would want to take action.

    Because I’ve had months with 80%+ happy days, so if I’m noticing my happy levels falling (Ie. 60%, 50%, 40%) I want to do something about it. I want to be doing counselling again, or I want to be going to the gym more, or seeing my friends more often.

    So I guess for me, tracking helps make mood signals more obvious?

    And on a daily level, I think it’s also useful to do that little bit of self-reflection. Like, "yeah, there were some sucky things that happened today, but was it day “bad”? Or was it a good day with bad parts?

    I’d advocate for anyone to try it, with whatever words/ moods make sense to you.

    Thanks for asking too! It’s fun to get to talk about it with someone.


  • I track my mood in a journal and each day and I’ve given myself four options for my overall mood was for the day. The options are:

    Happy Okay Tired Bad

    Perhaps counterintuitively, I mark the majority of my days as “happy” for the very reason you’ve described.

    The vast majority of days, I’m not “happy” by most people’s standards. I am content. But I think it’s actually quite useful to call contentedness happiness.

    For me, marking a day as anything other than “happy” requires some negativity to enter and for it to persist long enough that it spoils the overall contentedness.

    For example, even if I wake up exhausted, depressed and otherwise miserable, if I take a nice long shower, have a cuddle with my husband and watch a show I love, I might still be able to salvage that day from “bad” to “okay”

    I think it’s important that people don’t treat mood as a fixed immovable state. It’s almost always a signal that should be acted upon.