The whole men’s barrier to seeking care think has gone on way longer than the grindset attitude of late. Any doctor or nurse will tell you “My wife/child made me come” are scary words to hear from a man in the ER. I think a big aspect is related to the grindset attitude though, but is deeper and more indolent. It’s that men are often primary/majority breadwinners in a household lots of the time, and on top of the social stigma of seeking care (independence, weakness), you make more money if you set your health on the backburner. The benefits of primary care are not often easy to conceptualize (you never think about a stroke you didn’t have) and this diminishes the importance of regular primary care vs acute care for illness and injury. It’s important to note that this is a generational trend in both sexes, healthy, young folks are less likely to have a regular primary care physician as compared to older people or children.

I am DRAGGING myself through this month. I take a really important exam for my career tomorrow. I’ve spent a month studying full-time for it, and i’m running on fumes. I’ll look forward to getting home tomorrow evening. I’ve just finished Snowcrash by Neal Stephenson, and now i’m finally getting into Apostles of Mercy by Lindsay Ellis.

I feel you. It’s hard to explain to people how much they take for granted their ability to be unguarded when seeking out activities or communities, and to find those places as a gay person you are restricted to a tiny fraction of places (usually HCOL too sadly)

On the side, I hate how most LGBT community stuff is nightlife, bars, clubs. That’s not really my thing. I’d like some other options for meeting people and hanging out that are more relaxed and preferably earlier in the day. Though I feel that’s not unique to me or even other gay people.

turn of phrase. Bond villians generally have some weird philosphy that guides their actions, like this attacker who is using a cyberattack to push a goal of threatening a company to make their stuff open source.

Videos/mealtimevideos was a big thing for me. They kept me entertained while I ate lunch, lol.