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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Yeah. Honestly, 99% of the time my kid is having a fit, it’s because he’s hungry. I never yell either. Never have and probably never will (barring seriously dangerous things that need to immediately stop).

    After a couple months of feeding him when he’s upset, watching him calm down, apologizing if I angered him and then asking him if maybe he was so angry because he was really hungry, now he’ll actually tell me mid-fit that he’s really hungry. Or sleepy, scared, etc. Talking basic needs, not just hunger.

    Honestly I’m really happy. The emotional maturity of a toddler that can recognize that in large part his anger is being hungry it’s pretty cool.






  • Yeah. I was worried about the fighting against it thing. So far he seems to like speaking English, but just limited. I try to make it really cool that he speaks two languages. We also have a thing where he teaches me the local language and I teach him English, which is true since I’m not native in the local language.

    Basically trying to balance pushing and being careful of being overbearing.








  • My experience is completely anecdotal, so may not apply. Your toddler is like 2.5 years. I found it hard around that age, but after calmly setting boundaries, explaining why and being open to negotiation, at around 3 it became super easy.

    Tantrums for my kid are 99% of the time just because he’s hungry. I just explain this to him during and after the tantrum. Like “so you were really sad before, but after eating you’re happy now right? Do you think that would help next time you are sad?” Now he will sometimes tell me he’s just super hungry when he’s upset.

    Other than playing with him which I enjoy, he’s like 70% in auto pilot.