Hello everyone,

I’m reaching out today because I’m feeling overwhelmed with anxiety as I reflect on the past eight years. I’ve struggled with mental health issues, including a mild depression as diagnosed by my therapist, and more recently, anxiety. While these issues haven’t severely impacted my daily life, I feel that I’ve stagnated and not made the progress I had hoped for.

During these years, I’ve remained in the same low-qualified, low-paying job. I dropped out of university due to feelings of inadequacy and never moved out of my parents’ house, despite my dream of living abroad. Now, I find myself just going through the motions, waiting for the weekend, which often doesn’t bring the joy I expect.

I’m approaching 30 and feel like a failure, a loser, and too old to turn my life around. At the same time, I feel that my problems are trivial and that I shouldn’t be posting here. I’m not sure if this is the right community for this kind of post, so I apologize if it isn’t. I’m just looking for a bit of advice or resources that might help someone in a similar situation.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

  • 0x01@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    7 days ago

    At almost 30 you’re nowhere near the end of your journey. Many of my peers made most of their life changes after 30 in fact.

    One of life’s great injustices is the amount of work one does in a low paying job and a high paying job doesn’t really differ all that much. Most of the reason highly valued people are paid as much as they are is merely inertia, same with low income. The “poverty trap” is real and takes incredible luck to escape.

    I actually think your decision to stay home is laudable, and in fact I think you should stick with it as long as possible. You have a support structure and the opportunity to expand your horizons!

    Your mental health is tied to your work because our society has shoved that narrative down your throat. You are more than your work, you are a complex and unique person whose value is not tied to your economic station.

    You asked for resources. Those I know who have escaped the trap have done so through things like job corp, training academies, job switching, self study, etc. Don’t be afraid to try new things and invest in yourself, especially into your mental health.