Hello everyone,
I’m reaching out today because I’m feeling overwhelmed with anxiety as I reflect on the past eight years. I’ve struggled with mental health issues, including a mild depression as diagnosed by my therapist, and more recently, anxiety. While these issues haven’t severely impacted my daily life, I feel that I’ve stagnated and not made the progress I had hoped for.
During these years, I’ve remained in the same low-qualified, low-paying job. I dropped out of university due to feelings of inadequacy and never moved out of my parents’ house, despite my dream of living abroad. Now, I find myself just going through the motions, waiting for the weekend, which often doesn’t bring the joy I expect.
I’m approaching 30 and feel like a failure, a loser, and too old to turn my life around. At the same time, I feel that my problems are trivial and that I shouldn’t be posting here. I’m not sure if this is the right community for this kind of post, so I apologize if it isn’t. I’m just looking for a bit of advice or resources that might help someone in a similar situation.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
It’s most definitely not too late.
I was in a similar state about fifteen years ago, and older than you at the time.
The thing is that by not tackling the anxiety earlier, you’ve been learning how to live while anxious.
I have IBS and had a hernia that was making things far worse. I had no idea that’s what was going on with me. I lived that way for years.
Once it was fixed I needed to learn how to unlearn the anxiety. I’d wake up each day worrying whether it’d be a good day or a terrible ond. I’d stress about using the toilet.
Now I’m married and have a good life.
You’ve gotta start tackling that anxiety. Medication, therapy, self work.
I used to think I was depressed, now I realize I was depressed about what my anxiety kept me from doing.
Once you start to unravel the way you are, you’ll start remaking yourself into a more conscious person. It’s extremely worthwhile.