So I recently got back together with my boyfriend after cheating and taking a break.

I went to reddtit to look for advice and all of the post on this subject asoneafterinfidelity,support for waywards and more had either explicit rules you had to use gender neutral language or for some reason the culture insisted on it.

But like why ? I am a woman getting back together wit ha man and I just think that the situation is not the same. Women can get pregnant so there is the possibility of an affair pregnancy, STDs work differently for men and women social and emotional standards are different.

I feel like this makes things worst for everyone but why ?

Full disclosure I don’t even have a reddit account I am using this site because I could not cope with the karma system and I kept getting shadow banned.

So what is this ?

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
    31·
    9 hours ago

    You’re asking a pretty specific question, but your title looks like trolling. I’m starting with that because people tend to respond emotionally to the first things they read, and it means you aren’t getting solid answers.

    Someone else already explained that reddit policies drove that rule, and that’s as much as anyone really knows.

    At least, there was a wave of changes like that one, all around the same time, and the few mods that have said anything about it off of reddit have cited that as their reason mostly.

    But there are a few that decided to take it as an opportunity to blunt the edge of gendered language in general. Afaik that sub hasn’t had anyone say that, but you did ask about reddit in general as well.

    Expanding beyond that, and I want to emphasize that this is not the same thing as above, it’s tangential and here only for background; there are reasons to reduce gendered language overall. While it isn’t really going to totally change English where nobody uses gendered terms at all, reducing needlessly gendered language when speaking about people rather than men or women is an option that would help those among us that don’t fit gender expectations in one way or another. So (again, this is tangential) if you’re seeing it in other places, chances are that it’s intended to meet that concept.

    With that, responding solely to your title, I’m not seeing a trend of obsession with it, even among people that are proponents of degendering language. It’s a pretty niche movement, and even the more dedicated proponents know that it isn’t something that’s going to happen just by applying rules to forums.