I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc

I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.

Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.

    • VitoRobles@lemmy.todayEnglish
      15·
      2 days ago

      I’m going to go against the grain and suggest finding people with like-minded life situations.

      I had a friend who has a divorce at age 40. I did all I could as a friend, provide sympathy, check in. But he was extremely miserable, or just downright offensive.

      Dating is hard at that age - I get it. I don’t need to hear his opinion about why women of today aren’t what he wants in every conversation.

      I also cannot play his wingman. No, I’m not going to “pretend” to flirt with girls at a bar with him when I’m married.

      But it became offensive. Like my niece turned into an adult and he asked: “Is she looking for a man?” Dude, you’re twenty years older. WTF.

      Joke or not, as a married man, that’s not where I am in life. And yeah, I absolutely stopped hanging out with him because this version of him is hard to deal with.

    • dingleberrylover@lemmy.world
      8·
      2 days ago

      He would loose friendship by asking for support, if there was true friendship in the first place. Although it is hard for OP to see how these ppl tread him, at least he got to know their true faces.

      • CtrlAltDefeat@sh.itjust.works
        175·
        2 days ago

        Either they’re not friends or

        OP misinterprets their behavior, and they actually are supporting, just not the way/amount OP wants or

        “friends” believe OP is at fault and nobody is feeling sympathetic.

        I guess they could also just be terrible people that decided to shit on OP for shits n giggles. But I doubt it.