• zeropointone@lemmy.world
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    15 hours ago

    Chasing is only fun for predators. That’s why it’s such a frustrating and unfulfilling experience for the majority of men.

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      15 hours ago

      Chasing is fun, if you do it right.

      Go out, learn some new hobbies, try new things. Make a point to at least try some things you don’t like. Make new friends, and you’ll probably find someone who is equally happy to find you. The chase can be fun, but don’t chase a person, chase happiness, run with the pack, and find the one who is running with you.

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        14 hours ago

        Sharing hobbies is not what I would call chasing, that’s just basic social skills. Chasing is pretty much all the pick-up artist stuff. But honestly, I find people of today extremely boring, especially young people. The most complex hobby they have is doing workout to look fit and even that is done on a very superficial level. Nobody makes art anymore or is into philosophy or psychology. It’s all just about consuming memes and TikTok slop or pretending to be creative by using AI or joining the current virtue signaling/slacktivism hypetrain on social media. That’s why I prefer to talk to older people, you can sit down with them in a café and talk for hours about plenty of topics without ever looking at a smartphone. But it’s not easy to find them, they don’t go out much either for similar reasons. Society has changed a lot in the last decades and all I can do is to accept that and cherish those rare occasions.

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          13 hours ago

          New generations aren’t required to appreciate the culture of older generations.

          Frankly, I think the half-perm half macklemore high sided buzzcut fuccboi look is dumb, and it makes people look like pomped up poodles, but they aren’t getting those haircuts to be attractive to millennials. I imagine this is what my parents thought when every guy in my generation had spiked hair with bleached tips… So let them be alien to you, it’s totally normal. You don’t have to understand, but you should give them space to be themselves.

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            13 hours ago

            We didn’t have much better haircuts back then either. But we had more diversity. This is also one of those things I miss, the countless subcultures which led to interesting social dynamics. When was the last time you saw punks and hip hop enjoyers partying together in a park?

            I’m not trying to take space away from young people by any means. I actually tried the opposite. It didn’t work and I moved on.

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              12 hours ago

              When was the last time you saw punks and hip hop enjoyers partying together in a park?

              Never, but that’s because I spent most of my youth playing video games, or running around in the woods hitting my siblings with sticks.

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          14 hours ago

          or is into philosophy or psychology

          That makes people fun?

          I find people of today extremely boring, especially young people

          I think you should take a look at yourself before you call a generation that is experiencing the highest cost of living in modern history, boring.

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            13 hours ago

            Computers and music instruments are ridiculously cheap compared to the eighties and nineties. I had to build stuff with broken parts I found in trash (like everybody else who wasn’t rich so the majority of users) and still managed to make much better music with all that Frankenstein equipment than the average young AI slop “artist” of today. And you’re also proving my point regarding philosophy and psychology or anything else that needs more than a few seconds to process. Fits perfectly with studies about declining attention spans.

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            13 hours ago

            That makes people fun?

            Yes, talking to people about something deeper than “lol, look at this meme” is fun.

            I think you should take a look at yourself before you call a generation that is experiencing the highest cost of living in modern history, boring.

            WTF does one have to do with the other…? Are you suggesting that people have zero interests outside of social media because of high cost of living?

            You do realise that libraries are free? That getting a used guitar will cost you all of $50? That getting a pencil and a notebook to start drawing will be, what, $5? Oh yeah, you can even get a pencil for free at an Ikea.

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      13 hours ago

      Predators like you.

      You are the epitome of “Look ladies, I’m your one true good man” energy.

      UPDATE: Ooof a quick dislike huh, maybe I touched a nerve