This. Black sheep at age 10: yeah, I gues smistakes were made by the family.
Black sheep at age 50: That guy had 30 adult years to go to therapy and get his act together. At a certain point one can’t blame their messed up childhood anymore.
Turns into a generational thing as well: “I only messed up raising you because my dad messed up raising me and his dad messed up raising him”. Nobody takes the responsibility to fix anything and instead just blames everyone before them.
This. Black sheep at age 10: yeah, I gues smistakes were made by the family.
Black sheep at age 50: That guy had 30 adult years to go to therapy and get his act together. At a certain point one can’t blame their messed up childhood anymore.
Turns into a generational thing as well: “I only messed up raising you because my dad messed up raising me and his dad messed up raising him”. Nobody takes the responsibility to fix anything and instead just blames everyone before them.