On bars and tinder?

Without being good locking you go nowhere nowadays. You don’t even get a chance to show how funny, witty, common interests you have, much less to show that you have a good hygiene, for that you need a date first. And you are not getting swiped right if you are not attractive.

That is good for other kind of relationships, meeting people in other places and flirting. That can get you laid, but not the same type of quick casual sex that op is asking for. That’s more of a “start a relationship” kind of deal.

For the kind of date that goes “let’s have a drink to figure that you are not a psychopath that’s going to kill me and then to my place to fuck”, you need to be attractive (or open about having sex with other man).

I like to be clear with this. Because there’s tons of very good young men, who are funny, have great hygiene, are witty, are nice. And they have to confront the reality that without being good locking they will have to assume that that kind of sex is most likely out of the table, and they better try to build other kind of relationships instead. i prefer that to gaslighting them into thinking they don’t get laid because they are terrible people on the inside or have terrible hygiene, when this is most likely not true. And when they are seeing truly terrible people getting laid regardless because they are good looking.

My advice is that if you are not good looking you have mostly two options, think about experimenting with gay sex (you might like it) or completely opt out the dating scene (specially dating apps) and just build into making friends and potential love partners. Without really expecting quick casual sex, as that will lead to huge frustrations.