When I challenge something the other person said then they get upset and we start arguing. But then they change their position to agree with me. And claim to have held the same position as I do from the start.
So now I am the asshole for arguing when we agree on everything!!
Everybody has ADHD and I don’t think it’s on purpose. I just won the argument very thoroughly and this is what it looks like. I feel like I have to get a written record of what the other person is saying before I respond so they don’t accuse me of starting an argument over literally nothing.
(And I have 3rd party witness who confirms my view of the situation is not skewed.)
most arguments happen because of silly semantics. that’s why debate clubs and courtrooms start every discussion with word definitions, so they can skip the 3h argument that ends in “side A understood [the word] differently from side B. and it turned out there wasn’t any actual conflict as both sides agreed with each other when that was cleared up”. well, the argument sometimes gets skipped, but honestly, it’s just as likely to morph into an argument about the definition