They never said I’d feel like a fool, but mentioned that I’d probably understand later in life, and they were spot on, but it comes gruadually.
As an example: when I started paying my own bills, I stopped taking endless showers and later started being frustrated when my kids do.
I also very recently started understanding why they hated smartphones with small screens as they typed so slowly, as I keep mis-typing more and more myself.
So I’d say it starts when moving out and the realities of life hits you square in the face, and then the rest come dripping slowly over time.
Becomming a parent slaps you with another big load as well.
Ha, I felt the opposite. When I started seeing how cheap water is (where I live) I couldn’t believe my parents complained so much about an extra $1.50 a month.
And the endless whining about gas prices. Ok sis, you now have to spend an extra dollar per week. Maybe complain about the book bans and other fascism creeping into everyday life instead.
when I started paying for my own bills I found the opposite as well. It wasn’t as big a deal as they made it out to be and it certainly wasn’t worth screaming at a child about lamps being left on.
Or the penny wise dollar dumb way they lived.
Or their refusal to learn how to use a computer/Internet despite the obvious fact that this Internet thing was not just a fad after ~20 years of it existing and getting more and more ubquitous in everyday life.
Or the way they relied on their parents for assistance but when we needed help we were just lazy.
Not to mention their horrific life choices or personal beliefs.
But they were right about things like being on time.
Or doing the hard things first.
Or knowing when to walk away and come back later.
They never said I’d feel like a fool, but mentioned that I’d probably understand later in life, and they were spot on, but it comes gruadually.
As an example: when I started paying my own bills, I stopped taking endless showers and later started being frustrated when my kids do.
I also very recently started understanding why they hated smartphones with small screens as they typed so slowly, as I keep mis-typing more and more myself.
So I’d say it starts when moving out and the realities of life hits you square in the face, and then the rest come dripping slowly over time.
Becomming a parent slaps you with another big load as well.
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Ha, I felt the opposite. When I started seeing how cheap water is (where I live) I couldn’t believe my parents complained so much about an extra $1.50 a month.
And the endless whining about gas prices. Ok sis, you now have to spend an extra dollar per week. Maybe complain about the book bans and other fascism creeping into everyday life instead.
It feels like mine were right about a lot of the little things but missed the big picture.
Can’t say I can relate, sadly.
Could you share some examples?
when I started paying for my own bills I found the opposite as well. It wasn’t as big a deal as they made it out to be and it certainly wasn’t worth screaming at a child about lamps being left on.
Or the penny wise dollar dumb way they lived.
Or their refusal to learn how to use a computer/Internet despite the obvious fact that this Internet thing was not just a fad after ~20 years of it existing and getting more and more ubquitous in everyday life.
Or the way they relied on their parents for assistance but when we needed help we were just lazy.
Not to mention their horrific life choices or personal beliefs.
But they were right about things like being on time. Or doing the hard things first. Or knowing when to walk away and come back later.
Sounds rough my friend. Mine were trying to guide, but without yelling or consequences.
Glad to hear you kept the good bits and do allright for yourself these days!
You think you know what the big picture is. You still have a lot to learn.
You think there is a big picture. You still have a lot to learn.
You think you know there is no big picture. You still have a lot to learn.
If you think others still have a lot to learn, you still have a lot to learn.
We’re all “others” to each other.
If you think others don’t still have a lot to learn, you still have a lot to learn.