… And at worst, actively making your bedroom less functional and more cumbersome to use. The arguments I hear in favor of it are completely asinine and I will address them one by one.
- It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn’t imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.
- It doesn’t take much time, so you might as well do it.
I find any task not worth my time to be a waste, so unless it has a purpose, it is actively infuriating to do.
- It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy
Given that this is an entirely subjective reason, I can’t exactly “disagree” with it. But if there was someone I trust enough to be in my bedroom, I’m not going to waste my time convincing you that I do not, in fact, sleep in my bed.
Not to mention that if you want to nap or even sit on the end of the bed, you have to make it again. It is an incredibly unstable artwork, making me avoid using my bed unless I really need to.
If you make your bed, I have no judgment for you. Just like people who fold designs into the ends of their toilet paper. I couldn’t imagine caring about something like that, but it literally doesn’t affect me at all, so go nuts.
But I think we should be honest and call it what it is: some kind of shameful cleaning ritual that is probably some vestigial military chore, and I want nothing to do with it.
It took you longer to write this post then it does for me to fix my bed in the morning.
It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn’t imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.
Lol, it’s not about “laying perfectly supine”, it’s about what you are laying on. Yes, you will probably get a couple of small wrinkles by just getting in bed and getting comfortable, but if you never make your bed you will be laying on hundreds of very big wrinkles. To me the comfort level of laying in a made bed and a super messy one is night and day. If you can’t tell a difference, consider yourself lucky.
Pro tip: instead of balling up your blankets for knee support, keep an extra pillow on your bed specifically for that purpose. I have an old “king size” pillow I use that supports me from balls to ankles. It has helped my back tremendously.
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I make my bed because my cats will absolutely shed all their hairs on my side of the bed that one time I forgot to do it. Slightly allergic, so I learned fast lol.
When I get the care to do it, its nice having a neat room.
Some people function better when things are organized and orderly, some function better when things are disorganized and in disarray, some function the same either way.
It is what it is. An orderly, organized bedroom feels great to sleep in to me, and might not matter at all to someone else.
Whatever the case, anyone judging me because my bed is either made or not made can fuck right off.
Edit: upvoted for unpopularity, as one does.
- Is raises the chance of having sex, at least for my wife she definitely gets more in the mood when we go to bed and the bedroom looks clean and nice.
Yeah, but how often is your wife in OP’s bedroom?
About as often as I am in OPs bedroom…
You’d be surprised. Actually, on second thought, maybe you wouldn’t.
How about when you have crumbs all over the bed after snaccing and you need a less itchy place to lie down.
My room is really small, and I don’t have space for a couch for example, so if I would want to lay down and I’m in outdoor clothes, I would rather kill myself than to lay down in unmade bed while wearing jeans that saw every sort of dirt and dust
In that case, are you fully doing your bed every time, or just putting the duvet or whatever flat on the mattress so that it’s protecting it ?
I prefer to air the bed during the day so I pull the covers down to the end and fold over once. Pillows are reset so they’re fresh and comfy to start the night. Maybe later in the day I’ll pull the covers up but doesn’t later since it’s all neat anyway.
None of that is performative, it’s about freshness and comfort.
If you dial the resolution back beyond the bed, you have the whole human experience.
Finding meaning within a finite existence framed against the infinite is not easy but, if you pick up your fucking room a little, maybe it can be done with a bit more class and comfort?
Generally speaking, I agree with you, for many people… yeah there isn’t really any real compelling reason to habitually do this.
However, there are fairly common circumstances where this does actually make sense:
Maybe you just have a tad of OCD, and well… this’ll make you feel a bit more steady and comfortable, and it doesn’t really hurt anyone, assuming you’re not full blown OCD doing it over and over and over because its never perfect.
Maybe you are mildy to moderately depressed… and… just being able to have any kind of regular structure, regular task that you can accomplish… maybe that means you’re not a completely useless piece of shit, and if you can keep up this good habit, and give yourself a pat on the back each time… maybe that means you can start to step up toward more, or bigger tasks.
Maybe you’re a bit ADHD, and its… anchoring, helpful, to have that same just bit of predictable structure or routine, to help you get your day started.
Maybe you have a cPTSD / Trauma response to a messy bed from associating it with very shitty situations in your past, and… having a made bed just removes a trigger for you.
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Or maybe you have pets, or toddlers, and don’t want to ‘lose’ them, lol, or have their uh, debris of whatever sort, just get everywhere in the bed.
Maybe you live in a studio and eat food on your bed, clip your nails on it, and you adopt a regular ‘crumb removal from your bed’ routine as basically just a hygeine pattern, like brushing your teeth or hair or what not.
Maybe your heat went out or its just fucking freezing, and having a properly made bed makes it just a bit warmer to get into for sleep.
Maybe you have very fancy, high maintenance bedding, that will wrinkle and deform if not regularly … re normalized?
(Yeah I dunno, this is apparently a thing, I am apparently either too simple or broke a man to have ever entertained the idea of a high maintenance bed, but apparently people do?)
I had no idea people past my grandmother’s generation still felt compelled to make their bed… I thought we had collectively grown past the compulsion to do pointless tasks like this, along with other wastes of time like manually wiping the dishes or ironing everything including the dish cloth. Maybe that’s just me, though.
(I’m not talking about doing it if you want to because you like it, only about the expectation that you should be doing it no matter what.)
Agreed. Same reason I dont clean my dishes, or wipe.
Not wiping means you’ll damage your rear-end, or maybe get ill, and smell bad. Not doing your dishes will make you ill in the end.
I don’t see how not making my bed will make me ill, do enlighten me !
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Those are the only reasons you’ve ever heard?
I can’t speak for others, but my sleep is not clean. I can wake up with half the pillows I started with, and the duvet sometimes spun a 180, so the buttons are up by my head. Ive woken up with my arm inside the duvet cover.
My making the bed resets all that. Gets the pillows off the floor or out from behind the headboard, and it turns the duvet round again so I can just flick one corner open and climb in of an evening.Also when Ive lived with dogs and cats. It kept their hair from getting between the duvet and bedsheet, coz I really enjoy the idea of pets using my bed when I’m not.
Also it stops sex sweat from being in the sleep zone
