• rottingleaf@lemmy.world
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    19 hours ago

    If there’s anything I’ve learned in my life, it’s that I’m stupider than most. Maybe wiser at the same time, because being so stupid you evolve some wisdom or perish. Maybe.

    (Except I’m not sure it’s wisdom that I’ve learned the girls I was too shy to talk to 5 years ago and last week live in the same building, same entrance, and yet I don’t know how to talk to them, and I feel as if that day 5 years ago was closer to my infancy than today to my death. Autistic things are sometimes truly depressing.)

    People of this kind I’ve heard of seem very energetic. They may not always do the smartest thing, but they do it all the way in. Maybe that’s what’s wise.

    Though then why be a corporate executive. Doesn’t seem anything desirable.

    • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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      16 hours ago

      Autistic things are sometimes truly depressing.

      Absolutely. And figuring out how to interact with people, especially if they are people that you may find attractive for now intimate companionship (not trying to assume) is something that isn’t generally explicitly taught. It probably should be though as doing so would significantly reduce interpersonal strife.

      If wanting or receptive to some advice from someone with AuADHD, I can share something that helps my brain in some in-person social situations. Sometimes, I reframe it as a “scene” where I am playing the character of Me. Not an exaggeration or non-authentic version of myself, more like “method acting”. This tricks my brain into being more present and not worrying about possible futures or cringey things of the past.

      People of this kind I’ve heard of seem very energetic. They may not always do the smartest thing, but they do it all the way in. Maybe that’s what’s wise.

      For their benefit and the role that they in company structures, it is one approach that pays out for some. And it is one that’s heavily promoted. However, it does effectively amount to gambling, albeit with minimal personal risk to the CEO, considering the level of connections and wealth required for the position, not to mention the Golden Parachutes that they have in their contracts, should they be replaced.

      Though then why be a corporate executive. Doesn’t seem anything desirable.

      Generally, it’s about accumulation of personal wealth and power, rather than actually believing in a given service or product. While to you and I, that may not seem desirable, to a certain percentage of the population, it is a principal drive. Unfortunately for us, and humanity at-large, there’s also a statistically-significant increase in the incidence of anti-social personality disorder in those who pursue such positions, compared to the population average.

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        7 hours ago

        If wanting or receptive to some advice …

        I have done this in the past, but I unfortunately also have BAD and sometimes abruptly drop habits, including useful ones, because they start feeling insincere. Hard to explain.

        This is a very precious reminder, cause the former just means that one has to start again and again.

        For their benefit and the role that they in company structures, it is one approach that pays out for some.

        It’s also (hence why I’ve touched upon conditions) similar to the advice of “want to do something at all, do it badly”, sometimes given to people with those involving executive dysfunction.

        Unfortunately for us, and humanity at-large, there’s also a statistically-significant increase in the incidence of anti-social personality disorder in those who pursue such positions, compared to the population average.

        Yes, I’ve had a pleasure (not really) of meeting such people.

        Anyway, if their common worldview is that we all live on some kind of ruins of a fallen empire, and they are going to be nobles of that society, that doesn’t account for universal machines still being universal, and the technologies they rely upon being just as applicable the other way.