Edit: OOP is probably fine, the issue was mostly caused by my own problems rather than it being something the post-maker needs to correct. I’ll leave the original comment below if you still want to read it.
Original comment
This post is really frustrating: it assumes that having self-hatred means that you have superhuman expectations and then uses that to give unwanted advice and judgements.
The OOP is using a subset of a category to assume about the larger category, it’s an overgeneralization and hurtful when applied to real people.
this comment is unfinished
I struggled making this comment due to brain block and having trouble thinking through the reason I felt hurt by the post, and I was forced to leave the comment unfinished when I stopped being able to logically think about it entirely (I have severe executive dysfunction)
There was supposed to be a paragraph in the middle pointing out the differences in the common definition of self-hatred and their assumptions:
This is an important thing to leave out, but I didn’t want to waste all the time I spent writing the comment by deleting it and I really wanted to mention that this felt hurtful to me blargh
You’re right, I think what happened when I wrote that comment was that reading the post triggered a sore spot of mine, (that being self-hatred caused by disability) and I tried to rationalize that as being a fault of the poster rather than it being a fault of my reaction to it.
I had a similar reaction. I’m currently unable to work and really struggling without any external structures (thank you ADHD), so telling my severely depressed mind that my self importance is out of control because I’m struggling to accept my new reality is hurtful. I spend enough time despising myself, I don’t need anyone to add another reason on top.
I think this post is aimed at healthy people with extremely high self expectations, not those of us struggling with the activities of daily life. At least, that’s what I’m choosing to believe.
So, I just wanted to say, you’re not alone. I see you, your feelings are valid, and you’re enough.
Edit: OOP is probably fine, the issue was mostly caused by my own problems rather than it being something the post-maker needs to correct. I’ll leave the original comment below if you still want to read it.
Original comment
This post is really frustrating: it assumes that having self-hatred means that you have superhuman expectations and then uses that to give unwanted advice and judgements.
The OOP is using a subset of a category to assume about the larger category, it’s an overgeneralization and hurtful when applied to real people.
this comment is unfinished
I struggled making this comment due to brain block and having trouble thinking through the reason I felt hurt by the post, and I was forced to leave the comment unfinished when I stopped being able to logically think about it entirely (I have severe executive dysfunction)
There was supposed to be a paragraph in the middle pointing out the differences in the common definition of self-hatred and their assumptions:
This is an important thing to leave out, but I didn’t want to waste all the time I spent writing the comment by deleting it and I really wanted to mention that this felt hurtful to me blargh
I understand where you come from, but the oop literally states “a lot of”, so it’s about a subset, not the whole group.
And it’s still good advice to remember we’re just humans imho.
You’re right, I think what happened when I wrote that comment was that reading the post triggered a sore spot of mine, (that being self-hatred caused by disability) and I tried to rationalize that as being a fault of the poster rather than it being a fault of my reaction to it.
I appreciate your reply.
Hope you’re doing better!
I had a similar reaction. I’m currently unable to work and really struggling without any external structures (thank you ADHD), so telling my severely depressed mind that my self importance is out of control because I’m struggling to accept my new reality is hurtful. I spend enough time despising myself, I don’t need anyone to add another reason on top.
I think this post is aimed at healthy people with extremely high self expectations, not those of us struggling with the activities of daily life. At least, that’s what I’m choosing to believe.
So, I just wanted to say, you’re not alone. I see you, your feelings are valid, and you’re enough.