• Jean-luc Peak-hard@piefed.social
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    1 day ago

    some people in here are apparently perfect and don’t believe others can grow and learn from their mistakes. what a childish self-centered perspective.

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      6 hours ago

      Here’s the problem with public figures in particular: they have an extrinsic motivation to make others believe they’ve changed. You can’t actually know if they’re doing it for the money or because they actually believe it.

      The same issue goes for doing good too. Do people donate to charity because they want to or because they want people to see them? Is it still good if it’s the latter? Is there a difference functionally?

      • Jean-luc Peak-hard@piefed.social
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        2 hours ago

        100% agree, but this logic applies to everyone, not just public figures.

        they [public figures] have an extrinsic motivation to make others believe they’ve changed.

        Replace public figures with people and its just as accurate. Nobody wants to be the bad guy, even demon-spawn incarnate, Stephen Miller tries to put everything in a positive light “detaining violent illegals” vs “breaking innocent families apart and sending them to concentration camps”.

        Judge people based on their actions, not their words.

    • samus12345@sh.itjust.works
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      11 hours ago

      I’m willing to believe he might have learned from his mistakes, but he was 27 when he did the most egregious things. More than old enough to know better. The older you are when you do stupid shit, the harder it will be for people to forgive you.

      • Jean-luc Peak-hard@piefed.social
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        3 hours ago

        You’re exposing your privilege and lack of understanding other perspectives.

        Not everyone grew up knowing the impact words or phrases have on marginalized communities. I reflect on the day I learned women think twice about going for a runs at night. Growing up a white-passing guy in a relatively safe neighborhood, the possibility of getting raped was a foreign concept, but a sad reality for many women. In that same vein, you lack the humility to consider people like me, who grow up in an environment where slurs were common and “just a joke”.

        I’ve educated myself, learned from my past, reflected on how my actions may have impacted others at the time and walked away from ignorance. I am not who I used to be, and we must allow people to grow, or would you prefer to see no change?

        If you grew up perfect, you should feel blessed that you’ve had the opportunity. Not everyone gets that.

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        17 hours ago

        Why do you say that?

        Look at all the so-called “subtle bigotry” that predominates western media and then ask yourself why you expect anything else.

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            13 hours ago
            1. I did say “subtle”.

            2. I was talking about mainstream shit but I wasn’t thinking about him per se. More so commonly watched movies, TV shows and the manner in which the news presents certain people and parts of the world. I’ve never seen his content.

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        I watched a documentary recently about a former skin head who was getting his tattoos removed because he hated them because he didn’t believe that stuff anymore. I don’t remember his age, but he had to be in his 30s.

        You don’t “grow out of it” but you can learn that you were wrong. I’m not saying that anyone should support pewdeepie, but it should be encouraged when people change their views like that. Even if he’s being dishonest, it should be encouraged that he’s telling others it’s wrong, and also that it’s more beneficial to not do that.

        The goal should not be revenge, it should be less hate. Revenge only puts us further away from what we supposedly want.

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          if anyone wanted revenge on him, it would be extremely easy for someone to find him and do him harm. stop trying to make cancel culture against white men a real thing. Felix is one of the richest YouTubers in the world. if the reality you’re painting actually existed, he’d be bankrupt by now and deplatformed.

          let’s stop acting like Nazis need to be personally hugged and kissed on the forehead until they stop being violent

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        Is it something they inherently do? No. Is it something they can do?, Of course. Just like anyone evolve over time. Especially when you’re into something just to be edgy.

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          11 hours ago

          so it’s OK to be one as long as you’re just trying to be edgy? why are white men always left off the hook?

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            6 hours ago

            That’s not even close to remotely what they said. They said it’s easy to become one if you’re trying to be edgy. They never said it was OK. They said you can change and get out of it. If you were just doing it to be edgy, and not because you believed white people are superior, then it’s easier to change.

            Argue in good faith if you’re going to argue. Don’t change people’s words to fight a strawman. It only makes you look stupid.