I discovered I had ADHD about 18 months ago and since then I’ve noticed my personality has changed quite a bit. Just knowing the reason why the world always seemed such a confusing place and realising how much masking I did all my life, I’ve noticed the pendulum seems to be swinging in the other way now. I’m never masking again and if that means I seem strange to neurotypicals then so be it.
Have any of you who also discovered your neurospicyness in the last few years experienced anything like this as well? I’m just done pretending and I know it’s probably making me more of a challenge to be around.
I wonder if this is normal and if the pendulum will swing back eventually to a more harmonious place.
Also when did it become ok for dentists to tell you off for not brushing up to their standards. I just noticed how they routinely use shaming as a form of control.
I think they’ve always done this, and it has the opposite effect on me. I don’t want to be shamed, so I don’t go, tooth starts to hurt, but they’ll shame me, so I don’t go, things get worse, have to go, get shamed, get fixed, remember shaming, don’t schedule next appointment, repeat.
Please remember to brush your teeth and visit the dentist. Don’t be me. You only get two sets and you’ve already burned through the first one.
I go to dental hygienists instead. It’s not a perfect replacement, but it’s a necessary step in my dental journey.
The ones I’ve had have been a lot more… nuanced, in their approach. I tell mine upfront that I have ADHD and it makes it incredibly hard to build and follow a routine, and that is what I need help and compassion around.
If one then reacts judgingly or without understanding I would probably find a different one for the next appointment, but so far I’ve been lucky.
The first times I went they used numbing salve to make is less painful to get the numbing syringe, and they only cleaned a quarter of my mouth each time.
Every time we go over what I’ve managed to do with praise, and what I’ve struggled with without judgement. We do a cleaning (full mouth, unless I have a really bad day, and no numbing necessary anymore!), then together figure out what I can do on the things I struggle with, or if it’s better to focus on keeping routine and doing the easier parts until next time.
They have demonstrated and had me demonstrate brushing and flossing techniques several times, given me extra soft brushes with extra tiny heads to make it easier to navigate without slamming into other mouth structures when I get inattentive or impatient, and picked out four different options for toothpaste for my teeths needs.
It’s been incredibly helpful to get my teeth healthier. And it makes it easier to visit the dentist knowing that I don’t have to do it a lot and that I have other dental professionals in my corner. It also helps me communicate clearly to the dentist when something hurts too much and that they don’t need to lecture me because I am already working with a hygienist on my habits thankyouverymuch.
Can’t recommend it enough. Provided you are upfront with your issues and they are accepting of them.