Well, yeah, me too. I’m 54 and 30-somethings are starting to look like kids, not attractive to me, not in a sense I’d want to be close to one.
OTOH, I was on my third partner at 17, and she was too. Lost my virginity to a 14-yo, who initiated the thing and rode her bike across town to hook up.
My 17-gf and I weren’t happy with the whole sex thing until we hooked up. Cue 4-years of fucking like rabbits, nothing off the table.
So I have a hard time calling the 15-17 crowd “children”. I feel it demeans them, infantilizes them.
I can almost almost see what you mean but I don’t see how litigating specific wordings for sexually-explorative children helps anything. How does pushing for “teen” help in any regard beyond “feeling better”? As I understand it, all you’re saying is “don’t call them children because it sounds weird when I think about ‘children’ and ‘having sex’,” which…yeah, good! That’s a normal reaction and it’d be weirder if you didn’t.
Leave the kids to explore their own sexuality, safely and with their age-mates, without trying to convert them into “teens”: some nebulous border-age where it’s comfortable and “normal” for adults to think about them as sexual beings and, more often than not, sexualize them.
Well, yeah, me too. I’m 54 and 30-somethings are starting to look like kids, not attractive to me, not in a sense I’d want to be close to one.
OTOH, I was on my third partner at 17, and she was too. Lost my virginity to a 14-yo, who initiated the thing and rode her bike across town to hook up.
My 17-gf and I weren’t happy with the whole sex thing until we hooked up. Cue 4-years of fucking like rabbits, nothing off the table.
So I have a hard time calling the 15-17 crowd “children”. I feel it demeans them, infantilizes them.
I can almost almost see what you mean but I don’t see how litigating specific wordings for sexually-explorative children helps anything. How does pushing for “teen” help in any regard beyond “feeling better”? As I understand it, all you’re saying is “don’t call them children because it sounds weird when I think about ‘children’ and ‘having sex’,” which…yeah, good! That’s a normal reaction and it’d be weirder if you didn’t.
Leave the kids to explore their own sexuality, safely and with their age-mates, without trying to convert them into “teens”: some nebulous border-age where it’s comfortable and “normal” for adults to think about them as sexual beings and, more often than not, sexualize them.