i recently broke up with my ex, and surprisingly, moving on from him is far easier than i thought. i’ve already been talking to him less and unblocked him as a second chance (he started being nicer), but i definitely will be careful. considering i was “addicted” to him, i’m weaning it off until i don’t think about him at all.

  • fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.comMEnglish
    10·
    2 days ago

    I remember seeing your line of posts about him, glad you’re doing better. I don’t trust second chances, but if you want this then just be careful :)

      • fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.comMEnglish
        2·
        2 days ago

        You deserve better mate, they sound no good at all. I’m sure one day you can find the right partner, but accepting an abuser to ease the short term loneliness will only do more harm.

          • Flagstaff@programming.devMEnglish
            2·
            2 days ago

            If you’re unsure, you can always describe here what he did and we can try to assess, although remember that we would only be reading your side of the story.

            • jay (he/they)@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
              1·
              1 day ago

              well, he would one minute be affectionate, and the next, be unsure if he wanted me and say “let’s break up”. he also asked me to do stuff for him a lot or would be happy if i did but never did stuff for me. he called my interests “boring” or 'dumb". rude, but i don’t think it’s ABUSE

              • Flagstaff@programming.devMEnglish
                1·
                1 day ago

                That doesn’t sound like someone anyone would want to be with until that behavior improves. It doesn’t have to be abuse to be unstable and/or unsustainable. Continual rudeness has no place in a long-term/lifelong relationship, right?